Day 2 Quote Challenge: Forgiveness

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My friends Anna over at Life Bellisima and Sadie over at Sadie´s Nest have  nominated me for this challenge. Thanks a lot for thinking of me, ladies!

This quote is important to me because I confess that this is something that I need to be reminded of. I often tell my students not to worry if they make mistakes, that they should have patience, and the important thing to do is to try hard not to repeat them. We learn from our mistakes. We forgive each other but we have to forgive ourselves too. Not dwell upon our failures or weaknesses.  I have to practice what I preach. I can sometimes look back on the mistakes I have made and feel frustrated or ashamed when, in reality, those mistakes have taught me a lot. Life is about making choices and you live with the choices you make. But there is no sense in looking back and regretting. It is simply wasting the present.  I was once in a relationship for several years with a person who had a gambling addiction. Like many who have addictions, he hid his well. Looking back, I see the signs but I did not want to see them. I wanted to see the best in him. I put his needs before my own and to put a long story short, I ended up with a broken heart. I was devastated. I sometimes think of what my poor parents went through when I was with this person. They worried about me so much and saw the train wreck that was going to happen.  They never complained to me. They suffered in silence and supported me the best they could. I am so thankful for their kindness and love.Now, as I write this, I can think of good things that came out of this experience. I learned what I wanted and didn´t want from a relationship. I still say to this day that I would have preferred to have stayed single all my life than to have someone waste my time again. I made a promise not to waste my time either. I have also learned to forgive him. He was not, and I suppose is not (I have no contact with him) a bad person. Forgiveness does not condone the wrong.  A person with an addiction is incapable of fully giving or loving. That is a sad situation to find one´s self in. I hope he has found happiness and peace in his life and I am so grateful to no longer be with him. Meeting my husband, after this dreadful experience was like seeing a rainbow after endless storms. If I hadn´t made my mistakes, perhaps I would not appreciate my husband as much as I do. In the end, everything happens-and doesn´t happen-for a reason.

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My Superman and I 🙂

I would like to nominate the following!

My Culinary Saga

The Fairy Kitchen

Harvesting Dinner

 

Have a great day everyone. As always, thanks for reading.

 

xxxxxx

6 thoughts on “Day 2 Quote Challenge: Forgiveness

  1. It’s like that song lyric “I wish that I knew what I know now, when I was younger…” But so true, it’s a waste of the present to dwell on it! Thanks Natascha!

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